My own positive affirmation cardsWe are constantly having internal dialogues. Our thoughts are a powerful tool, which contribute to the majority of our feelings. Depression, sense of accomplishment, our sense of self-worth and self-esteem are all connected to how we think of our lives and ourselves.
Cut in half, as we are all connectedIf our thoughts are this powerful and we have the power to talk ourselves into almost any state, why is it so much easier to talk ourselves down than to talk ourselves "up"?
Why rumination and negative internal dialogue is so much more powerful than positive internal dialogue? In our society, in our lives, we are bombarded with messages of what it is to be a good little girl or a good little boy.
Crafty envelopeAlso, I believe things are getting a bit more complicated as more often than not, our sense of self-worth is directly connected to how good we look, how much we have, AND how much we conform by the rules of what's expected from us.
with the beautiful items I got from Annette, as an act of kindness from one to anotherThe same way we have trained your brain all these years to produce negative self talk, I believe we can train your brain to have a positive outlook on a lot of situations, especially on those where our perception is being distorted by our own fears.
It takes a little training, but I think we can use of inexpensive and effective tools to achieve that:
- Think of a difficult situation and how you were able to overcome it
- Maybe you had a difficult life, childhood, etc. but you are here: alive
- Think about a dream you made true
- Remember you have food, shelter, and family. A lot of people have nothing
- Help someone else in need
- Pick one thing you are really good at and be proud of it
my loyal assistant
And here is a tale of the next tool: on my sophomore year, I had a professor of Behavioral Psychology. She was not a beauty by our standards, but she was someone who was very confident. She told us that every morning she would looks at herself in the mirror and whisper things like "Hi, hot stuff, you are looking foxy today grrrrrrrr (followed by a clawing move;-)"; or "you are beautiful, smart, courageous and you can do it." I used to think she was a whacko, but she had something at the time I did not understand, but today I respect: the desire to be kind and positive to herself.