When I was in college, I studied about client-centered therapy and its biggest representative Carl Rogers. He wrote about "unconditional positive regard" or as we called it: "unconditional acceptance."
This is where Carl Rogers came in. Although I heard many criticisms in regard to "unconditional acceptance", it is only when I accept myself unconditionally, in a safe way, that I can recognize my shortcomings. And change. I never thought that feelings of envy and jealousy could, in actuality, be an insight of the things we dream or wish for ourselves.
We all strive to show our best selves, but we know we are made of much more than the masks we wear.
Carl Rogers: "The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction, not a destination."